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Extroverted people love a reason to party, and the holidays provide countless opportunities to do so. With holiday parties, office soirees and family get-togethers in the mix, the season is jam-packed with celebrations. “Extroverts are outgoing individuals who enjoy interacting with others -- so, typically, they love parties,” says Elizabeth Lombardo, Ph.D, author of A Happy You: Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness. All good, right? Well, not exactly. At this time of year, extroverts often say “yes” to every invite that hits their in-box and can end up spreading themselves too thin.

Here, Lombardo offers pointers on how to work the party circuit without blowing a fuse.


It’s OK to hit and run. Extroverts can certainly put in cameo appearances at a lot of parties on the same night, as long as each party is conducive to that, says Lombardo. “Cocktail parties, yes -- but sit-down dinners, no,” she warns.

Before You Go

Go in with a plan. If you know the guest list, make a mental note beforehand of who you want to talk to at the event, because according to Lombardo, “parties can fly by for an extrovert.” And always grab a bite of something healthy and satiating before you go. “Extroverts are so chatty at parties, they often forget to eat,” Lombardo observes.

When You Arrive

Find the hostess stat. “Because extroverts are likely to be the life of the party, it’s important to acknowledge and thank the person who’s hosting the soiree before you get too busy working the room,” says Lombardo. Do it first thing so you don’t forget.

Working The Crowd

Make connections. While fluttering around the room like the social butterfly you are, introduce party guests to each other. “This is a great way to connect people and contribute to people’s happiness, which is a huge source of joy for extroverts,” Lombardo says. Plus, it allows you to move on without getting stuck talking to one person for hours -- which can be an extrovert’s worst nightmare!

Making Your Exit

Watch the clock. Extroverts need to be mindful of the time and not overstay their welcome, warns Lombardo. “Just because you're having a great time into all hours of the night does not mean the hostess is,” she says. “If the invitation has an end time, try to keep close to that.”


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