Did And Done: No More Sucky New Year's Eves
New Year’s Eve can trigger some pretty nasty hangovers -- and I’m not just talking about the kind from too much Champagne. Have you ever woken up on January first with what I call an "Expectation Hangover"? You did everything you could to live up to the New Year’s Eve standards, but ended up feeling disappointed because it just did not turn to be the greatest night of the year that you expected. Maybe you spent too much money, didn’t get the kiss you wanted, or didn't enjoy yourself amidst the crowd of drunk people...
Chances are, you've either declared that you hate the hype of New Year’s Eve and will boycott it altogether, or you're already putting all kinds of pressure on yourself to create some fantastic plans for December 31 that are sure to meet your expectations.
If you truly want to avoid having an Expectation Hangover, build your New Year's Eve plans around the life you want to have -- and the changes you want to make -- in 2014, rather than trying to live up to some New Year's Eve standard. Consider that how you begin your New Year sets the stage for what this next year will bring.
When making your plans for December 31, keep the following in mind:
What kind of people do you want in your life? Surround yourself with the people or type of people that you want to spend the most time with this year. My guess is that random strangers are not at the top of your list. Reach out to a small group of close friends and create an evening of connecting with those you really love. If you're in a relationship, take the pressure off each other to do something extraordinary and spend the evening envisioning what you want to create together over the next year. Or perhaps you're yearning for more quiet time this year. I'm giving you full permission to spend New Year's Eve alone. It does not make you a loser! Making a conscious choice to relax and reflect on the next year is a beautiful gift to give to yourself.
How do you want to spend your time? If you really want to be partying most of the year, then go ahead and stand in line for that huge bash. However, if you’d rather be doing things this upcoming year like traveling, avoiding the New Year's scene altogether may be right up your alley. One of my best New Year's Eves was spent on a plane coming back from Bali, and I actually did end up traveling a lot more that year because I set that intention from 34,000 feet on December 31. Or perhaps you want more downtime this year. If that's the case, then a mellow night at home watching a movie could indeed be the greatest night ever.
What kind of environments do you want to be in? Screaming at the top of your lungs over Pitbull is probably not how you want to spend the majority of 2014. So what do you want to be doing? Maybe you’d like to spend more time nourishing your mind, body and spirit. Look into attending a meditation ceremony or a wellness retreat. If you are craving more fun, then absolutely head to the event or party you want to go to, not the one you think you should go to or the one everyone else is going to.
What do you want to feel? Think about the qualities you want to experience more of in the new year, such as peace, joy, abundance, creativity, love and so on. Let your intentions be the inspiration for your plans. If creativity is something you want more of, then painting or playing music on New Year's Eve could be the perfect plan for you.
Drop your expectations instead of dropping a ton of cash to attempt to live up to them. Make the choice this year to wake up on January first hangover-free by making plans that are in true alignment with what you would like to feel and experience this coming year. And remember, New Year's Eve is actually just another day on the calendar. You have 365 days to make 2014 an epic year!