Many people look at my husband of fifteen years, Victor Juhasz, and say, “Oh, you’re so lucky!”

Trust me, I feel blessed to have met and married my true love, but our healthy marriage isn’t an accident and definitely can’t be chalked up to “luck.” 

We work at it by consciously making our connection a priority. What the other thinks, feels and wants matters to both of us. We treat each other with respect and are actively grateful.

You, too, have a choice. Do you want to be right, or do you want to be loving? Most of the time, you can’t be both. You can focus on what’s wrong with your partner or what’s right. Of course, Victor and I annoy each other at times like any couple who has been together for many years, but that is not where we choose to put our attention. We immediately and effectively communicate our frustration to avoid a toxic build up of resentment. This is a daily choice, and you and your partner have the same choice.

What are you focusing on? Do you still love what you loved about your partner when you first met him/her? Do you appreciate your partner and treat them with loving kindness and respect?

Love doesn’t just stay good. You have to intend that it stays interesting, hot and fun.

I am interested to hear if you have any great tips on keeping love healthy or maybe you need a little advice on effective communication. Drop a comment and share. 

I hope you have an amazing week and as always, take care of you.


Love Love Love


Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist known for her holistic approach, combining practical psychology, thought innovation, and harnessing the power of intention to create sustainable change. She has a unique ability to take complex theories and translate them into actionable steps you can implement into your daily life. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook and Pinterest.